Dear Linda:
Where can I begin to summarize how three years of Mom to Mom wisdom, guidance, love and support in the areas of motherhood and child rearing, marriage-building, and the power of God, have impacted me and my family? It will be difficult, but I will try.
• You gave me back my sense of self-worth. Gone are my feelings that motherhood has no socially redeeming value. Being a mother at home, I’m not contributing to some company’s financial bottom line. However, I am rising to the expectation that God has had of me since He gave me my first child: I am striving to raise confident, responsible, honest, loving, compassionate, joyful human beings who turn to God in everything they do and who make a difference in the world by using their talents to help bring joy to others. What job could be more important than shaping a child?
• You helped me understand how marriage changes with the birth of children, and how we both need to actively seek ways to maintain our marriage in the midst of raising children. You encouraged us to look for ways to love, honor, support and serve one another. You showed me how to see Jesus in my husband and thereby treat my husband with as much respect and love as I would Jesus Himself. You reminded me that a happy marriage begets happy children.
• You gave me tools for helping my children feel wanted, accepted, valued and loved. I learned how to open the lines of communication between them and my husband and me, and between them and God. You helped me to recognize my own destructive behaviors towards my children and to replace them with words and actions that instill self-worth in them. I am working to build their character, teaching them how to resolve conflict, and encouraging their service to others.
• You made me realize that, with three now adolescent children, I have learned some useful parenting techniques that I can pass on to younger moms; dare I say that I am a bit of a Titus 2 woman? And yet, moms with younger children have just as much insight to offer. In our group, we have learned from and encouraged each other. It has truly been a mutual give and take experience.
• You gave me back my sense of identity. While being a wife and mother are important, I now realize that God gave me gifts and talents that He wants me to use to grow myself, benefit others, and glorify Him. It’s okay to build in time just to be me, in addition to fulfilling my other roles.
• You pointed me towards the One who leads me and loves me, the One on whom I can depend, the One who died for me. Prayer is my line of communication, and there is power in prayer. In Jesus I can find strength, understanding, and wisdom to get me through even the toughest moments of parenting. With Jesus I can relish the joys and achievements of child rearing.
Truly, Mom to Mom has touched me and my family in so many positive ways. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. May you continue to help many other moms and their families establish Christian homes in which each member is loved and appreciated, has room to grow, and builds a lifeline to God. And may God bless your efforts and multiply your successes.
Sue Gobat
Colt’s Neck, N.J.